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Difference and Similarity

We tend to dislike people that are different from us. From appearance, behavior to belief. That’s why racism, discrimination and religious war exist.

But what happens when everybody look alike, behave in similiar ways and believe in the same ideas? What happens when differences no longer exist?

We now want to be different.

We change our appearances, act rebelliously and start believing in weird things. We do everything we can to stand out from the crowd.

We are not logical creatures like we often believe. Far from it. We, the human beings, are irrational.


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Fear of the unknown

What is it? 

Consider these situations:
You are walking in a dark street at night to get home.
You are in the car of your friend and he is driving too fast.
You are in the last moment of your life.
Before read further, you should spend a moment to think about this question: What do the three situations above have in common?
If you can’t figure it out, the answer is, you do not know what kind of things are going to happen next. They are still unknown, but your mind is telling you that they won’t be good things.

In all three situations above, anything may happen: you might be suddenly attacked by a robber, the car might bump into something and in the last case, your soul might be torn apart by the Death.

And this is one of the worst fears of human beings: the fear of the unknown.

The Consequence

Why fear of the unknown is bad? It keeps you worrying about things that either have a small chance of occurrence (you might be attacked) or things you have no control over (death). And eventually, it completely wears you out.

Aside from those extreme examples, fear of the unknown often prevents you from switching to a better job, getting to know a new friend or taking advantage of new opportunities to succeed.

Some thoughts

Regarding to death, religions do a great job of helping people in fighting this fear. They make the unknown become the known: “death is just a doorway to heaven.” Once people believe that, they no longer worry about what will happen with them after they die, because they know the gate of heaven is waiting for them.

However, reality proves that religions still can’t totally remove all uncertainties behind death from their followers: even people who firmly believe in heaven don’t want to die to go there. After all, how many people has been able to come back from heaven to tell the story of how it looks like?

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The reason why we don’t write

In this social media era, a large percentage of information is in form of writing. Still, there are a lot of people who don’t write. Why? There are many reasons. But, in my opinion, one of the most common causes is we all want perfection in our writing.

We want everything in our post to be perfect. Nothing is more embarrassing than writing a blog entry with full grammar mistakes and publishing it under our very own name. People will laugh at our faces once they see it. However, since we don’t write often enough, we can’t have a blog post that we truly satisfy. So finally, we decide it’s better not to write anything. End of story.

However, our world does not and should not work that way. Stop reading and take a look at everything around us right now. Can you name anything that is perfect? I bet you can’t.

Let’s take it further. Suppose that after trying very very hard, you find a thing which, in your opinion, is almost perfect. Unfortunately, somebody can always tell you that, that thing is no way close to their image of perfection.

You may ask, Why? One simple explanation is because their definition of perfection is different from your definition of perfection and, in turn, differs from mine. Perfection itself does not exist.

So why would you have to bother about how other people may think of your writing?

Just write! Do not wait for perfection, because it will never come.
But what to write? My answer is just write anything that pops in your mind. Any topic is OK as long as you start writing it.

And you know what? A blog entry, even short, conveys way more meaning than a ton of empty Facebook statuses. And as a friend of yours, I care about it.


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What if today were the last day of you life?

Steve Jobs gave one of his greatest speaks in the 119th commencement of Stanford University. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not a fan of Steve Jobs, but what he said in that speak was, in my opinion, undeniably true.

…No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it.. – Steve Jobs

If you ask me what I should bet on to get a surest win? My answer is I’m going to bet that one day you and me will die. I will definitely win since death is the inarguable fact, the law of nature.
The only thing matter here is “when?”. It could be 40 years from now, 10 years from now, a month from now or … even today? No one knows what tomorrow will be like. You could laugh with a friend today and tomorrow you would hear the news that you would never be able to see him or her again. Sad? Yes. But that might happen to you, me or all of us. My friend died in an accident three years ago, and that was just a few hours after we talked. Since then, I have realized that if I can’t predict how long I’m going to live, I will make every single day of my life counts. Life is short.

…Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.. –  Steve Jobs


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How to eat an Elephant?

“One bite at time”

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Zombie – Mindless living

Do you worry more about which party should you join this weekend or which brand of clothes should you buy than your future in the next 10 years?

Do you fill in the gaps of your life with any random activities that pop in your mind? Do you watch TV , play games or surf Facebook because you “just feel like doing it ” or “just have nothing to do?”

Do you have big dreams or wishes that long ago were abandoned in the very bottom of your mind to pursue things that satisfy your immediate needs?

Is your life often a video tape that by the end of the day it automatically rolls back for another round ?

Are you really just a mindless zombie?
Wake up!!

Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways.  – Stephen Vincent Bené

Every man dies.  But not every man really lives.  -Braveheart

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Tell yourself..

Tell yourself you’re going to fail this exam and you’ll  get an F.

Tell yourself you never get rich and you’ll live in poverty forever.

Tell yourself you are incompetent and you’ll never achieve anything.

The surest way to fail is to determine not to succeed – Richard B. Sheridan

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